Important relationships in your life

Can you identify the most important relationship in your life? This can be different for each individual and that’s absolutely okay.

For some people, it might be their relationship with God or the universe.

Maybe it’s your relationship with your Mum, or your partner, your pet, even yourself.

I don’t think there is a right or a wrong answer here. What I think is worth reflecting on is the quality of those relationships.

Certainly there’s some science that says if you’ve got five friends that you trust, you’re doing well in life.

And I definitely believe that. I also firmly believe that like attracts like.

Looking inward

If you’re not happy in your relationships, sometimes instead of looking outward, sometimes it’s worth also looking inwards.

How is your relationship with yourself? How do you talk to yourself? Do you catch yourself with negative thoughts coming in all the time?

Are you your best friend, or do you say things to yourself that you wouldn’t say to anyone else in the world?

What comes with that, might be our own internal communication or our ability to communicate with others.

Do things get lost in translation? Or do you feel like you and your partner are speaking a different language?

Some of us may find that we don’t so much connect through the words we speak. Maybe we connect more through actions or other things that we do for others.

Or do we connect through the heart? Connection and communication are both really important areas of building and sustaining lasting relationships.

Community Connection

I’m really blessed that within Koru, we have this beautiful community. You might have other communities in your life.

It might be your community at your gym, or it might be an online community, or maybe your church. It’s worth thinking about the kind of communities that we have in our lives and how we can cultivate that.

If we don’t feel like we have a sense of place of belonging amongst a community, that can be something worth investing in.

How can we cultivate more community or how can we engage with our community?

There’s some studies around this as well. People who live longest, well into older age, are engaged in their work or community.

3 C’s of relationships

So three things, we’ve got communication, connection, community. The three C’s of relationships.

But if in doubt, I would say, start with the connection, communication, in yourself before extending that out.

Or if those things are going well, what one thing can you do today to improve your sense of quality of your relationships?

Maybe not the number of relationships, but the quality and your connection with those that you care about.

With that have a great day.

Video Transcript:

Can you identify the most important relationship in your life? This can be different for each individual and that’s absolutely okay.

Now for some people, it might be their relationship with God or the universe.

Maybe it’s your relationship with your Mum, or your partner, your pet, even yourself.

I don’t think there is a right or a wrong answer here. What I think is worth reflecting on is the quality of those relationships.

Now, certainly there’s some science that says if you’ve got five friends that you trust, you’re doing well in life.

And I definitely believe that.

And I believe that too, that, you know, like attracts, like.

If you’re not happy in your relationships, sometimes instead of looking outward, sometimes it’s worth also looking inwards.

How is your relationship with yourself?

How do you talk to yourself?

Do you catch yourself with negative thoughts coming in all the time?

Are you your best friend, or do you say things to yourself that you wouldn’t say to anyone else in the world?

And so certainly what comes with that, might be our own internal communication or our ability to communicate with others.

Do things get lost in translation? Or is it like that sometimes speaking a different language than our partner?

Or is it that we find that we don’t so much connect through the words that maybe we connect more through actions or other things that we do for others.

Or do we connect through the heart?

And that connection and communication are both really important areas of building and sustaining lasting relationships.

The other thing that I would say that comes into that is community.

And I’m really blessed that in, within Koru, we have this beautiful Koru community and you might have other communities in your life.

It might be your community at your gym, or it might be a community like an online community, or it might be your church, but it’s worth thinking about the kind of communities that we have in our lives and how we can cultivate that.

And if we don’t feel like we have a sense of place of belonging amongst a community, and that sometimes that can be worth investing in.

How can we cultivate more community or how can we engage with our community?

So certainly there’s some studies around this as well, and that people who live longest and not just like live a long time, but also live well into older age.

They are engaged in their work or community.

So three things, we’ve got communication, connection, community.

So they’re like the three C’s of relationships.

But if in doubt, I would say, start with the connection, communication, in yourself before extending that out.

Or if those things are going well, then how can you do, what one thing can you do today to improve your sense of quality of your relationships?

Maybe not the number of relationships, but the quality and your connection with those that you care about.

With that have a great day.